NO ACCIDENTS If you could stand back far enough and watch the whole process you would see You Are A Totally Determined Being - Ram Dass

The most important aspect of love is not in giving or the receiving: it's in the being. When I need love from others, or need to give love to others, I'm caught in an unstable situation. Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability. Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me.

Illusions are like mistresses. We can have many of them without tying ourselves down to responsibility. But truth insists on marriage. Once a person embraces truth, he is in its ruthless, but gentle, grasp.” — Rabazar Tarzs

It's all real and it's all illusory:
that's Awareness!