Our egos are constructed in our formative years — our first two decades. They get constructed by our environment, our parents, society. Then, we spen… - Naval Ravikant

Find a relationship where you, naturally being you, makes the other person happy. And the other person, naturally being the other person, makes you happy.

You recorded the good and bad experiences, and you use them to prejudge everything thrown against you. Then you’re using those experiences, constantly trying and predict and change the future. As you get older, the sum of preferences you’ve accumulated is very, very large. These habitual reactions end up as runaway freight trains controlling your mood. We should control our own moods. Why don’t we study how to control our moods? What a masterful thing it would be if you could say, “Right now I would like to be in the curious state,” and then you can genuinely get yourself into the curious state. Or say, “I want to be in a mourning state. I’m mourning a loved one, and I want to grieve for them. I really want to feel that. I don’t want to be distracted by a computer programming problem due tomorrow.

If you’re a high agency person, there’s never been a better time to be alive.