Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often courage. - Gary Chapman

We are influenced by our personality but not controlled by it.

"The best way to predict future is to create it." Abraham Lincoln

Those who say it is hypocritical to take positive action when they have negative feelings are operating on the assumption that the true self is determined by emotions. I am suggesting that is a false premise, and to the degree that it has permeated Western thinking, it has been detrimental to family relationships.