we can’t see what we aren’t looking for, and don’t notice what we don’t notice. - Shane Parrish

The ego default: we tend to react to anything that threatens our sense of self-worth or our position in a group hierarchy.

The second thing we can do is to learn how to fail properly. Failing properly has two major components. First, never take a risk that will do you in completely. (Never get taken out of the game completely.) Second, develop the personal resilience to learn from your failures and start again. With these two rules, you can only fail temporarily.

I need to listen well so that I hear what is not said.
Thuli Madonsela1