...it was in her refusal to allow any of us to indulge in self-pity of any kind...through a maddening style of argument, in which the following three… - Nicholas Sparks

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...it was in her refusal to allow any of us to indulge in self-pity of any kind...through a maddening style of argument, in which the following three statements were repeated in various sequences:
A. It's your life + social commentary.
B. What you want and what you get are usually two entirely different things.
C. No one ever said that life was fair.