It is easy to live for others; everybody does. I call on you to live for yourselves. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

I am at a loss to understand why people hold Miss Austen's novels at so high a rate, which seem to me vulgar in tone, sterile in artistic invention, imprisoned in their wretched conventions of English society, without genius, wit, or knowledge of the world. Never was life so pinched and narrow. ... All that interests in any character [is this]: has he (or she) the money to marry with? ... Suicide is more respectable.

Make yourself necessary to somebody. Do not make life hard to any.

Build therefore your own world.