Our culture views divorce as a failure. One that requires a personal solution rather than a cultural one. Most divorce books focus on personal healin… - Lyz Lenz

In sum, we need women to buy into romantic partnerships so that they will become the social safety net that our leaders and politicians refuse to create.

I want to squeeze myself into this role assigned to me — doting wife, good mother, worshipper of the male voice, the male god, the muscular Jesus, that requires I only work in the children’s ministry, or go to women’s Bible studies.

And what does that matter anyway? I don’t want to be a pastor, do I? Why can’t I just fit in? Why can’t I just make it work? And I had for many years. My whole life. I know the moves and the language. I know how to brush my hair, wear my earrings, which books to read, and when to stay silent. I’ve spent my whole life doing it, believing that this was the cost of my life. The sacrifice of faith was to constantly feel the blisters of this ill-fitting religion. So why now?

But so often for wives, the measure breaks when we ask for the scale to slide in our favor.