It's impossible to change the past or the present: you can only accept all that as it is. - Rick Hanson

Every human being has three basic needs — safety, satisfaction, and connection — that are grounded in our ancient evolutionary history.

Use imagery, which stimulates the right hemisphere of your brain. For example, if I’m with someone who’s getting intense, I might imagine myself as a deeply rooted tree, with the other person’s attitudes and emotions blowing through my leaves and shaking them — but winds always come to an end, and my tree remains standing. Or I’ll imagine that there is a picket fence between us — or, if need be, a glass wall that’s a foot thick. In addition to the benefits that come from the particular images themselves, activating the right hemisphere encourages a sense of the whole that is larger than any part — including that part of your experience which might feel uncomfortable with closeness. Be Mindful of Your Inner World

Deliberately call upon your inner strengths related to meeting these specific needs,