Topology is destiny,' he said, and put the drawers on. One leg at a time. - Neal Stephenson

She's a woman, you're a dude. You're not supposed to understand her. That's not what she's after.... She doesn't want you to understand her. She knows that's impossible. She just wants you to understand yourself. Everything else is negotiable.

“I understand the speed of light!” Zula blurted.
Faces turned toward her, gawped, then turned away. A hundred years ago, someone would have taken her up on the gambit. Now people were too intimidated—or perhaps they assumed she was finally losing it.
Except for Enoch. “Explain it,” he urged her. “I’ve always wanted to understand.”

Men who believe that they are accomplishing something by speaking speak in a different way from men who believe that speaking is a waste of time.