The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It is a fact, however, that when we … - Gary Chapman

The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.

Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.

Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.

Sometimes our words are saying one thing, but our tone of voice is saying another. We are sending double messages. Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.