You cannot let your parents anywhere near your real humiliations. - Alice Munro

In your life there are a few places, or maybe only the one place, where something happened, and then there are all the other places.

People are curious. A few people are. They will be driven to find things out, even trivial things. They will put things together, knowing all along that they may be mistaken. You see them going around with notebooks, scraping the dirt off gravestones, reading microfilm, just in the hope of seeing this trickle in time, making a connection, rescuing one thing from the rubbish. And they may get it wrong, after all. I may have got it wrong.

Because if she let go of her grief even for a minute it would only hit her harder when she bumped into it again.