Research shows about 15% of the population have the ability to self reflect. Even fewer have the ability to solve conflict and emotionally regulate. Don’t take people’s lack of emotional skills, personally. It’s rarely about us— even when it feels good to believe it is. Freeing yourself from taking things personally allows you to set boundaries, not drown in shame, and to stop trying to fix what you didn’t break.
Dr. Nicole LePera is an American psychiatrist and best-selling author who as of late 2025 has over 1.3 million followers on Facebook, over 9 million followers on Instagram and over 1 million followers on X.
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