I too was ill prepared for the West. The only difference between my relatives and me is that I opened my mind. - Ayaan Hirsi Ali

This is exactly how minds are opened: through honest, frank dialogue. Tears may be shed, but not blood.

To claim that the oppression of women has nothing to do with Islam and is “only” a traditional custom is intellectually dishonest, a decoy. The two elements are interwoven. The code of honor and shame may be tribal and pre-Islamic in its origins, but it is now an integral part of the Islamic religion and culture. Honor killing asserts what Islam also asserts: that women are subordinate to men and must remain their sexual property.

The liberation of women is like a vast, unfinished house. The west wing is fairly complete….
Go to the east wing, however, and what you find is worse than unfinished.