Overall there is a smell of fried onions. - William James

My experience is what I agree to attend to. Only those items which I notice shape my mind.

The more rational statement is that we feel sorry because we cry, angry because we strike, afraid because we tremble, and not that we cry, strike, or tremble, because we are sorry, angry, or fearful, as the case may be. Without the bodily states following on the perception, the latter would be purely cognitive in form, pale, colorless, destitute of emotional warmth.

Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.