Proof that one can be both intelligent and accept the intelligence of those who disagree with you? Why, I should think it would undermine the scholar… - Brandon Sanderson

Fine? All right? Now leave me alone. You’re stinking up the place with an air of contented idiocy.

Jasnah hadn’t cared what people thought of her, yet had always kept her appearance immaculate. Not that Jasnah had acted alluringly—never for a moment. In fact, she’d disparaged such behavior in no uncertain terms. Using a fetching face to make men do as you wish is no different from a man using muscle to force a woman to his will, she’d said. Both are base, and both will fail a person as they age.
No, Jasnah had not approved of seduction as a tool. However, people responded differently to those who looked in control of themselves.

But you should try to understand what they want out of life, and respect that, rather than projecting onto them what you think they should want out of life.