Herein lies the delicious torture, the 'flowery combat' of intimacy — the lover who really turns you on deep in your sexual heart will also really fr… - David Deida

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Herein lies the delicious torture, the 'flowery combat' of intimacy — the lover who really turns you on deep in your sexual heart will also really frustrate you in more superficial moments. If you have a feminine essence, then your masculine lover's deep confidence and integrity will turn you on, except when bulldozing your feelings and nit-picking the content of everything you say in a moment of conflict. If you have a masculine essence, then your feminine lover's spontaneous laughter and fluid sexual responsiveness will turn you on, except during times of whacko hysteria and unpredictable shutdowns. In moments of deep communion, the masculine and feminine open as a singular gift — two facets of one jewel.

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