Every man is a hero in his own story, Princess. - Brandon Sanderson

Who's put these ideas in your head? Why would you want to learn to hit other boys with a stick?

Jasnah hadn’t cared what people thought of her, yet had always kept her appearance immaculate. Not that Jasnah had acted alluringly—never for a moment. In fact, she’d disparaged such behavior in no uncertain terms. Using a fetching face to make men do as you wish is no different from a man using muscle to force a woman to his will, she’d said. Both are base, and both will fail a person as they age.
No, Jasnah had not approved of seduction as a tool. However, people responded differently to those who looked in control of themselves.

I hadn't thought to find ardents who were willing to question their own beliefs.