We are born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society. - Judith Martin

Miss Manners’ attitude is that it is better to bar the door to unwanted guests than to back them out through it.

Lady” is not used before the lady’s first name unless she is the daughter of a duke, marquess or earl; those who come by the title through marriage use it before the husband’s name. Fortunately,

College women are typically given to declaring for one or the other (in my day, for marriage; now, generally, for careers), and only later finding to their surprise that they must cope with both — while their men may be trying to figure out how to get out of doing both.