If you ask a tree how he feels to know that he's spreading his fragrance and making people happy, I don't think a tree looks at it that way. I am jus… - Sadhguru

If terrible things have happened to you, you ought to have grown wise. If the worst possible events have befallen you, you should be the wisest of the lot. But instead of growing wise, most people become wounded. In a state of conscious response, it is possible to use every life situation — however ugly — as an opportunity for growth. But if you habitually think, “I am the way I am because of someone else,” you are using life situations merely as an opportunity for self-destruction or stagnation.

When you are able to create yourself the way you want, you can craft your Destiny the way you want as well.

Most people will grow only with pain, not with pleasure. It’s unfortunate, but that’s the truth. Generally people only go down with pleasure. They don’t go up with pleasure. Please see, the quality of a human being is like this: when life offers more and more pleasures to a man, he doesn’t grow. He goes down. In terms of the real quality of a human being, only when suffering comes, when pain comes, does a man stand up as a human being.