The notion that I should be fine with the status quo even if I am not wholly affected by the status quo is repulsive. - Roxane Gay

As Syreeta McFadden noted, “Only in America can a dead black boy go on trial for his own murder.

I look at some of my worst relationships and think, At least they didn’t hit me. I work from a place of gratitude for the bare minimum. Since then I’ve never been in a relationship where I’ve had to hide nonconsensual bruises. I’ve never feared for my life. I’ve never been in a situation where I couldn’t walk away. Does this make me a lucky girl? Given the stories I’ve heard from other women, yes, it does make me a lucky girl. This is not how we should measure luck.

If rape culture had its own cuisine, it would be all this shit you have to swallow.