happiness is the frequency of positive experiences, not the intensity. - Sheryl Sandberg

Social gains are never handed out. They must be seized.

My coworkers should understand that I need to go to a party tonight — and this is just as legitimate as their kids' soccer game — because going to a party is the only way I might actually meet someone and start a family so I can have a soccer game to go to one day!

First, women must come across as being nice, concerned about others, and “appropriately” female. When women take a more instrumental approach (“This is what I want and deserve”), people react far more negatively. There is a saying, “Think globally, act locally.” When negotiating, “Think personally, act communally.