react is important here. However you approach codependency, however you define it, and from whatever frame of reference you choose to diagnose and tr… - Melody Beattie

Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.

We cannot (and have no business trying to) control anyone’s emotions, mind, or choices. We cannot control the outcome of events. We cannot control life. Some of us can barely control ourselves.

Can you feel the rush? Listen quietly. It’s there. It’s the sound of a life and spirit being set free. God, help me set myself free from ridiculous and unnecessary expectations.

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.