...intelligence and success are not clear paths to popularity at any age. This complicates everything, because at the same time women need to...own t… - Sheryl Sandberg

I thought resilience was the capacity to endure pain, so I asked Adam how I could figure out how much I had. He explained that our amount of resilience isn’t fixed, so I should be asking instead how I could become resilient. Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity — and we can build it. It isn’t about having a backbone. It’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone. Since

The more satisfied a person is with her position, the less likely she is to leave.3 So the irony — and, to me, the tragedy — is that women wind up leaving the workforce precisely because of things they did to stay in the workforce. With the best of intentions, they end up in a job that is less fulfilling and less engaging. When they finally have a child, the choice — for those who have one — is between becoming a stay-at-home mother or returning to a less-than-appealing professional situation.

past my own feelings of guilt and insecurity, I feel grateful. These parents — mostly mothers — constitute a large amount of