The time will come when memory will bring a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eyes. - David Kessler

"Your pain will not always be like this," I told her. "It will change." This is a message that the grieving need to hear, and in the moment of saying it, I often observe a shift. The person looks up at me and says, "It will?" And he or she suddenly becomes lighter.

the reality is posttraumatic growth happens more than posttraumatic stress.

I don't want to have to tell them that my life lost all its meaning when they died. They loved me, and they wouldn't want that.