...our impulses are too strong for our judgement sometimes - Thomas Hardy

I don't see why a maid should take a husband when she's bold enough to fight her own battles,

And as each and all of them were warmed without by the sun, so each had a private little sun for her soul to bask in; some dream, some affection, some hobby, at least some remote and distant hope which, though perhaps starving to nothing, still lived on, as hopes will.

I may do some good before I am dead — be a sort of success as a frightful example of what not to do; and so illustrate a moral story.