When we love completely, we feel alive, but - Tony Robbins

it’s not actual pain that drives us, but our fear that something will lead to pain. And it’s not actual pleasure that drives us, but our belief — our sense of certainty — that somehow taking a certain action will lead to pleasure.

It’s hard not to notice that hope is the foundation of this typical approach. But insiders like Ray Dalio don’t rely on hope. Hope is not a strategy when it comes to your family’s well-being.

If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviours and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve.