"I am not one to deny the broadening effects of distant lands," offered Nofreg, "yet I have often said that the chief benefit of travel is to allow t… - Matt Hughes

Coming whence you do, you doubtless assume that the mores and customs of your own land arise from the workings of simple human nature. But human nature is far from simple, and what appears natural in your own milieu may seem chillingly alien when transported into some foreign sphere.

Have you considered the possibility that our standards as to what is important may differ?

The direct approach is not always the wisest strategy, as those who have fallen off mountains can testify.