My patients taught me not how to die, but how to live. - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Most people’s initial reaction to sad people is to try to cheer them up, to tell them not to look at things so grimly, to look at the bright side of life. This cheering-up reaction is often an expression of that person’s own needs and that person’s own inability to tolerate a long face over an extended period. A mourner should be allowed to experience his sorrow, and he will be grateful for those who can sit with him without telling him not to be sad.

en la muerte no hay dolor, miedo, ansiedad ni pena. Sólo se siente el agrado y la serenidad de una transformación en mariposa.

Tools that no longer work must be released.
We must thank them and let them go. And sometimes people have to grieve for that part of them that will never be.