Imagine being sentient but not alive. Seeing and even knowing, but not alive. Just looking out. Recognizing but not being alive. A person can die and… - Philip K. Dick

"You know what you can buy at the supermarket?" Laws inquired acidly. "I’ll tell you. Canned burnt offerings." "You know what you can buy at the hardware store?" Hamilton answered. "Scales to weigh your soul on." "That’s silly," the blond said petulantly. "A soul doesn’t have any weight." "Then," Hamilton reflected, "you could put one through the U. S. mail for nothing." "How many souls," Laws conjectured ironically, "can be fitted into one stamped envelope? New religious question. Split mankind in half. Warring factions. Blood running in the gutters." "Ten," Hamilton guessed. "Fourteen," Laws contradicted. "Heretic. Baby-murdering monster." "Bestial drinker of unpurified blood." "Accursed spawn of filth-devouring evil."

Grief reunites you with what you've lost. It's a merging; you go with the loved thing or person that's going away. You follow it a far as you can go.

But finally,the grief goes away and you phase back into the world. Without him.

And you can accept that. What the hell choice is there? You cry, you continue to cry, because you don't ever completely come back from where you went with him — a fragment broken off your pulsing, pumping heart is there still. A cut that never heals.

And if, when it happens to you over and over again in life, too much of your heart does finally go away, then you can't feel grief any more. And then you yourself are ready to die. You'll walk up the inclined ladder and someone else will remain behind grieving for you.

Do not assume that order and stability are always good, in a society or in a universe. The old, the ossified, must always give way to new life and the birth of new things. Before the new things can be born the old must perish. This is a dangerous realization, because it tells us that we must eventually part with much of what is familiar to us. And that hurts. But that is part of the script of life. Unless we can psychologically accommodate change, we ourselves begin to die, inwardly. What I am saying is that objects, customs, habits, and ways of life must perish so that the authentic human being can live. And it is the authentic human being who matters most, the viable, elastic organism which can bounce back, absorb, and deal with the new.