Intimacy is about growing more than you could by yourself, through the art of manual gifting. - David Deida

The more you seek a woman who gives you everything, the less you get of anything.

Women can seem to bring you to your true nature. Or they can seem to take you away from it. Each moment of appearance and of woman may be a distraction, an obsession, or a revelation. Notice the distractions — tits, ass, wealth, and fame — and practice the revelation of oneness by feeling through the distractions. Notice the obsessions — tits, ass, wealth, and fame — and practice the revelation of oneness by feeling through the obsessions. Practice it with your woman, for real. Bow down to her, and then bow down through her, into the deep which only seems to have been an other.

Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, and useless. Then it should be discarded. This is a sign of growth, but you may mistake it for a sign of failure.