more common denominator seemed to be the unwritten, silent rules that usually develop in the immediate family and set the pace for relationships.8 Th… - Melody Beattie

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more common denominator seemed to be the unwritten, silent rules that usually develop in the immediate family and set the pace for relationships.8 These rules prohibit discussion about problems; open expression of feelings; direct, honest communication; realistic expectations, such as being human, vulnerable, or imperfect; selfishness; trust in other people and one’s self; playing and having fun; and rocking the delicately balanced family canoe through growth or change — however healthy and beneficial that movement might be. These rules are common to alcoholic family systems but can emerge in other families, too.