Sometimes when a woman speaks out, some people think it’s shouting” — a - Anne Helen Petersen

As she amassed more and more, she noticed a trend in the way the authors of the letters — almost always mothers — were framing their family’s lives: as an endless, packed, frenetic stream of busyness. She began to realize that they were, in fact, competing:“It’s about showing status,” Burnett told Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed. “That if you’re busy, you’re important. You’re leading a full and worthy life.”12 Busy-ness, in other words, as a very certain sort of class.

Put differently, the rhetoric of Williams’ different body isn’t just sexist – it’s profoundly racist.

We were raised to believe that if we worked hard enough, we could win the system - of American capitalism and meritocracy - or at least live comfortably within it. But something happened in the late 2010s. We looked up from our work and realized, there’s no winning the system when the system itself is broken.