My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment. - Oprah Winfrey

Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the mext moment

What I’ve learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

Even as a kid, my memories are of books taking me out of myself.

Here’s how I see your weight — it is your smoke detector. And we’re all burning up the best part of our lives.” I’d never thought of it that way before, but it was a true aha moment. My weight was an indicator warning, a flashing light blaring my disconnection from the center of myself.