Focus on growth, not on status. - Benjamin P. Hardy

According to psychological research, your willpower is like a muscle. It’s a finite resource that depletes with use. As a result, by the end of your strenuous days, your willpower muscles are exhausted, and you’re left to your naked and defenseless self — with zero control to stop the nighttime munchies and time wasters. At least, that’s what you’ve been taught. Clearly, the research on willpower explains human behavior. But only on the surface level. The very fact that willpower is required comes from several fundamental sources: You don’t know what you want, and are thus internally conflicted. Your desire (your why) for your goals isn’t strong enough. You aren’t invested in yourself and your dreams. Your environment opposes your goal.

Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do,” Jobs said. “It’s true for companies, and it’s true for products.

This brings up a fundamental question you and I must answer for ourselves, and that is, do you believe life is random or can it be designed? Do you believe your behavior and situation are random, or influenced and shaped?