It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you. - John Updike

When you feel irresistable, you're hard to resist.

We are cruel enough without meaning to be.

Each set of woes can be left behind in a folder in a drawer at the end of the day. Whereas in the outside world there is no end of obligation, no protection from the needs and grief of others.