Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either. - Erich Fromm

By incestuous symbiosis is meant the tendency to stay tied to the mother and to her equivalents — blood, family, tribe — to fly from the unbearable weight of responsibility, of freedom, of awareness, and to be protected and loved in a state of certainty dependence that the individual pays for with the ceasing of his own human development.

To be fully awake is the condition for not being bored, or being boring — and indeed, not to be bored or boring is one of the main conditions for loving. To be active in thought, feeling, with one's eyes and ears, throughout the day, to avoid inner laziness, be it in the form of being receptive, hoarding, or plain wasting one's time, is an indispensable condition for the practice of the art of loving.

Human history began with an act of disobedience, and it is not unlikely that it will be terminated by an act of obedience.