Erich Fromm Quotes

"بالتطابق مع توقعات الآخرين, بالا يكون الانسان مختلفا, نخرس هذه الشكوك عن ذاتية الانسان ويتم الحصول على امان معين. وعلى اية حال يكون قد دفع الثمن غاليا. ان التنازل عن التلقائية والفردية يفضي الى انجراف الحياة ومن الناحية السيكولوجية ان الانسان الآلي بينما هو حي بيولوجيا هو ميت انفعاليا وذهنيا. بينما هو يقوم بحركات الحياة, فان الحياة تنساب من بين يديه كالرمال. ان الانسان الحديث وراء جبهة من الرضاء والتفاؤل غير سعيد في الاعماق, كحقيقة واقعة, انه على شفا اليأس. انه يتمسك يائسا بفكرة التفردية, انه يريد ان يكون "مختلفا" وليست لديه توصية اكثر من قوله:" ان الامر مختلف". ان الانسان الحديث تواق للحياة, ولكن لما كان انسانا آليا فانه لا يستطيع ان يعيش الحياة بمعنى النشاط التلقائي الذي يتخذه ويحله محل اي نوع من الاضطرابات او الاثارة: اثارة السكر والرياضة والمعايشة العنيفة لاضطرابات الاشخاص الخياليين على شاشة السينما."

"Modern man has transformed himself into a commodity; he experiences his life energy as an investment with which he should make the highest profit, considering his position and the situation on the personality market. He is alienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. His main aim is profitable exchange of his skills, knowledge, and of himself, his "personality package" with others who are equally intent on a fair and profitable exchange. Life has no goal except the one to move, no principle except the one of fair exchange, no satisfaction except the one to consume.p97."

Without effort and willingness to experience pain and anxiety, nobody grows, in fact nobody achieves anything worth achieving.

Nationalism is our form of incest, is our idolatry, is our insanity. 'Patriotism' is its cult...Just as love for one individual which excludes the love for others is not love, love for one's country which is not part of one's love for humanity is not love, but idolatrous worship.

The basic for any approach to self-transformation is an ever-increasing awareness of reality and the shedding of illusions.

Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved , rather than that of loving , of one's capacity to love. Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable. In pursuit of this aim they follow several paths. One, which is especially used by men, is to be successful, to be as powerful and rich as the social margin of one's position permits. Another, used especially by women, is to make oneself attractive, by cultivating one's body, dress, etc. .... Many of the ways to make oneself lovable are the same as those used to make oneself successful, to 'win friends and influence people'. As a matter of fact, what most people in our culture mean by being lovable is essentially a mixture between being popular and having sex appeal.

There is nothing inhuman, evil, or irrational which does not give some comfort, provided it is shared by a group.

The pathetic superstition prevails that by knowing more and more facts one arrives at knowledge of reality. Hundreds of scattered and unrelated facts are dumped into the heads of students; their time and energy are taken up by learning more and more facts so that there is little left for thinking. To be sure, thinking without a knowledge of facts remains empty and fictitious; but “information” alone can be just as much of an obstacle to thinking as the lack of it.

إذا كان صحيحًا أن اعتراف المرء بحيرته يشكل بداية الحكمة، فهذه حقيقة لا تتعدى كونها تعليقا بسيطا على حكمة إنسان العصور الحديثة. فنحن رغم الحسنات التي يتمتع بها تعليمنا العالي في المجال الأدبي، ورغم إعدادنا التربوي العام، قد فقدنا تلك الموهبة التي تجعلنا نعرب عن حيرتنا. إذ يفترض بكل الأمور أن تكون معروفة، إن لم يكن من قبلنا فمن قبل بعض الإختصاصيين الذين تقوم مهمتهم على معرفة ما لا قبل لنا بمعرفته. ذلك أن كون المرء في حيرة من أمره يعتبر دليلًا مزعجاً على الدونية الذهنية، حتى أن الأطفال بالذات نادرا ما يعربون عن دهشتهم، أو أنهم على الأصح يحاولون أن لا يعربوا عنها. وهكذا نأخذ كلما تقدمت بنا السن نفتقد شيئا فشيئا إلى ملكة الدهشة، بل نأخذ نعتبر أن إعطاء الجواب الصحيح أمر في غاية الأهمية، في حين أن طرح السؤال الصحيح لا يتخذ في نظرنا، في المقابل، إلا قيمة ثانوية

Perhaps most trivial talk is a need to talk about oneself; hence, the never-ending subject of health and sickness, children, travel, successes, what one did, and the innumerable daily things that seem to be important. Since one cannot talk about oneself all the time without being thought a bore, one must exchange the privilege by a readiness to listen to others talking about themselves. Private social meetings between individuals (and often, also, meetings of all kinds of associations and groups) are little markets where one exchanges one’s need to talk about oneself and one’s desire to be listened to for the need of others who seek the same opportunity. Most people respect this arrangement of exchange; those who don’t, and want to talk more about themselves than they are willing to listen, are “cheaters,” and they are resented and have to choose inferior company in order to be tolerated.

"If other people do not understand our behavior — so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being "asocial" or "irrational" in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. How many lives have been ruined by this need to "explain," which usually implies that the explanation be "understood," i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself — to his reason and his conscience — and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation."

I believe that the nature of man is a contradiction rooted in the conditions of human existence that requires a search for solutions, which in their turn create new contradictions and now the need for answers. I believe that every answer to these contradictions can really satisfy the condition of helping man to overcome the sense of separation and to achieve a sense of agreement, of unity, and of belonging. I believe that in every answer to these contradictions, man has the possibility of choosing only between going forward or going back; these choices, which are translated into specific actions, are means toward the regressing or toward the progressing of the humanity that is in us.

"We forget that, although freedom of speech constitutes an important victory in the battle against old restraints, modern man is in a position where much of what "he" thinks and says are the things that everybody else thinks and says; that he has not acquired the ability to think originally - that is, for himself - which alone gives meaning to his claim that nobody can interfere with the expression of his thoughts."

Man’s main task is to give birth to himself.

Man represses the irrational passions of destructiveness, hate, envy, revenge; he worships power, money, the sovereign state, the nation; while he pays lip service to the teachings of the great spiritual leaders of the human race, those of Buddha, the prophets, Socrates, Jesus, Mohammed — he has transformed these teachings into a jungle of superstition and idol-worship. How can mankind save itself from destroying itself by this discrepancy between intellectual-technical overmaturity and emotional backwardness?