If time and money were no object and I did not have to seek anyone’s permission, what kinds of experiences would my soul crave? Let’s apply this to t… - Vishen Lakhiani

Exercise: The Eight Statements The simple set of eight statements below will help you gauge where you are on the path to bending reality. Indicate how true each statement is for you by selecting one of the choices offered. There are no right or wrong answers. If you’re still in the starting gate, no worries. We’ll be talking more about how to get there. 1.​I love my current job to the point where it does not feel like work. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 2.​My work is meaningful to me. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 3.​There are often moments at work that make me so happy the time just flies by. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 4.​When things go wrong, I don’t worry at all. I just know something good is on the horizon. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 5.​I feel excited about my future, knowing even better things are always on their way. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 6.​Stress and anxiety don’t seem to faze me much. I trust in my ability to attain my goals. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 7.​I look forward to the future because I have unique and bold goals on the horizon. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE 8.​I spend a good amount of time thinking excitedly about my visions for the future. NOT AT ALL TRUE​SOMETIMES TRUE​VERY TRUE If you answered “Very true” to statements 1 through 4, you are likely happy in the now. If you answered “Very true” to statements 5 through 8, you likely have a good vision for your future. If you can answer “Very true” for all eight statements, you’re likely in the state of bending reality. Most people, however, find that they tend to be able to answer “Very true” to either the happiness-related statements or to the vision-related questions, but not to both.

Our malleable brains as children make us amazing learners, receptive to every experience and primed to take any shape our culture decrees. Think, for example, about how a child born in a multicultural home can grow up to speak two or three languages fluently. But it also causes us to take on all forms of childhood conditioning. Ever notice how often a child asks why? The typical parent’s response to the steady barrage of why, why, why is usually something along the lines of: “Because I said so.” “Because that’s the way it is.” “Because God wanted it this way.” “Because Dad says you need to do it.” Statements like these cause children to get trapped in a thicket of Brules they may not even realize are open to question. Those children grow up to become adults trapped by restrictions and rules that they have taken to be “truth.” Thus we absorb the rules transmitted by culture and act in the world based on these beliefs. Much of this conditioning is in place before the age of nine, and we may carry many of these beliefs until we die — until or unless we learn to challenge them.

Amy Wrzesniewski, associate professor of organizational behavior at Yale University, has been studying a classification system that can help you recognize your orientation toward your work and attain greater job satisfaction. She defines work in three ways: 1.​A JOB is a way to pay the bills. It’s a means to an end, and you have little attachment to it. 2.​A CAREER is a path toward growth and achievement. Careers have clear ladders for upward mobility. 3.​A CALLING is work that is an important part of your life and provides meaning. People with a calling are generally more satisfied with the work they do.