He is tremendously strong, she thought, and liked the idea, even as she had feared that strength when she first met him - Alice Borchardt

One who forced another was beneath contempt. One who needed to was despised

Some of the captured women killed themselves. I didn’t. others yielded and learned to love their captors. I wouldn’t do either one. I knew I would escape. Death is forever; to learn to love the hand that crushes you is a shame not to be borne. Pain and slavery will pass. I believed this and it kept me alive

And then he remembered that the other function of sex is punishment – men use it to humiliate women. And since turnabout is fair play, women often use it to humiliate men