If you put your happiness on self-start, and if you are happy by your own nature, relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness… - Sadhguru

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If you put your happiness on self-start, and if you are happy by your own nature, relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness, not to seek happiness. If you are forming relationships to seek happiness, you trying to squeeze happiness out of somebody and that person trying to squeeze happiness out of you, this is going to be a painful relationship after some time. But if you have become a joy by yourself, nobody is going to complain about you because you are in the process of expressing your joy, not seeking joy from the other person. You can hold a million relationships and still hold them well. Now, this whole circus of trying to fulfill somebody else’s expectations does not arise, because if you are an expression of joy, they anyway want to be with you. If you are trying to extract joy from them, then they want to avoid you. Isn’t it so?

Shifting your life from pursuit of happiness to an expression of joyfulness is what needs to happen if relationships really have to work on all levels.

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About Sadhguru

Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev (born 1957) is an Indian mystic and humanitarian. He is the founder of Isha Foundation which administers yoga centers around the world, including India and the United States.

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If you are forming relationships to seek happiness – you trying to squeeze happiness out of someone and that person trying to squeeze happiness out of you – this is going to be a painful relationship after some time.

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