Detachment involves “present moment living” — living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We rel… - Melody Beattie

Detachment involves “present moment living” — living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it.

We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day.

wrote codependency is “an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual’s prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules — rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems.”2

We work it out, or live it out.

I know when to say no and when to say yes. I take responsibility for my choices. The victim? She went somewhere else. The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more. But I need to continue to remember the key principles: boundaries, letting go, forgiveness after feeling my feelings — not before, self-expression, loving others but loving myself, too.