If we abdicate responsibility for our choices, we may become angry, sometimes full of rage at others for running our lives, for telling us what to do… - Melody Beattie

Maybe we don’t need to go deeper into our codependency. We can, instead, march forward into our destinies.

react is important here. However you approach codependency, however you define it, and from whatever frame of reference you choose to diagnose and treat it, codependency is primarily a reactionary process. Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains,

I reacted to other people’s feelings, behaviors, problems, and thoughts. I reacted to what they might by feeling, thinking, or doing. I reacted to my own feelings, my own thoughts, my own problems. My strong point seemed to be reacting to crises — I thought almost everything was a crisis. I overreacted.