When you hear someone repeating his grief story over and over, that means his grief has not been witnessed in a healthy way. - David Kessler

"Your pain will not always be like this," I told her. "It will change." This is a message that the grieving need to hear, and in the moment of saying it, I often observe a shift. The person looks up at me and says, "It will?" And he or she suddenly becomes lighter.

Ya, saya memiliki hidup yang baik, tetapi apakah saya benar-benar meluangkan waktu untuk hidup?

No matter how long you were together, it's not enough time, but the love you shared is not gone. It lives within you, as a part of you. The experience of love that you had can never be destroyed or changed by a new love. That love will exist forever in its own time, in its own way, in your heart. But more love can be available to you if you desire. Your heart can have many loves in its lifetime. A new love can grow out of the same soil without diminishing a past love. You still have a life. It was one you didn't prepare for and you didn't want. But this road is still worth traveling. Your story is still in the making, waiting for you to find it.