Ultimately, too much dependency on a person can kill love. Relationships based on emotional insecurity and need, rather than on love, can become self… - Melody Beattie

Sometimes codependents were blamed; sometimes they were ignored; sometimes they were expected to magically shape up (an archaic attitude that has not worked with alcoholics and doesn’t help codependents either). Rarely were codependents treated as individuals who needed help to get better. Rarely were they given a personalized recovery program for their problems and their pain. Yet, by its nature, alcoholism and other compulsive disorders turn everyone affected by the illness into victims — people who need help even if they are not drinking, using other drugs, gambling, overeating, or overdoing a compulsion.

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

The change which is upon us is not a well-kept secret in the Universe. — BRIAN LUKE SEAWARD IN THE GOOD REMEMBERING, by Lyn Roberts-Herrick