The female has learned by long experience to win by losing, to wield power in the passive-aggressive manner of the sadomasochist. - Sam Keen

In back of the outward calm … a small terrified voice cries out: “I need it. I have to have it or ...” The end of the sentence is lost in chaos. The need is so strong that an illusion is created that it must be fulfilled, or the very existence of the self is threatened.

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Within the horizon of this [western] myth, love is understood as the artificial restraining of our natural impulses toward unbridled aggression.