You have entered an abnormal, lonely, and unwelcome new world where you are nothing but an island of sadness. - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

loss counts more than another. It is your loss that counts for you. It is your loss that affects you. Your loss is deep and deserves

Most people’s initial reaction to sad people is to try to cheer them up, to tell them not to look at things so grimly, to look at the bright side of life. This cheering-up reaction is often an expression of that person’s own needs and that person’s own inability to tolerate a long face over an extended period. A mourner should be allowed to experience his sorrow, and he will be grateful for those who can sit with him without telling him not to be sad.

You may also be angry with yourself that you couldn’t stop it from happening.