We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Murdoch

The theatre is a tragic place, full of endings and partings and heartbreak. You dedicate yourself passionately to something, to a project, to people, to a family, you think of nothing else for weeks and months, then suddenly it's over, it's perpetual destruction, perpetual divorce, perpetual adieu. It's like éternel retour, it's a koan. It's like falling in love and being smashed over and over again.’
'You do, then, fall in love.’
'Only with fictions, I love players, but actors are so ephemeral. And then there’s waiting for the perfect part, and being offered it the day after you've committed yourself to something utterly rotten. The remorse, and the envy and the jealousy. An old actor told me if I wanted to stay in the trade I had better kill off envy and jealousy at the start.

El sexo es un invento absurdo que a pesar de serlo no aspira más que hincharse y penetrar. Se supone que tiene algo que ver con el amor, por lo menos ésa es su leyenda, pero el amor es un mito estimulante y aunque no lo fuese no podría tener relación alguna con el sexo. No mezclamos el amor con la comida, ¿verdad? Ni con el hipo o sonarse la nariz. ¿Y con la respiración? o con la circulación de la sangre o el funcionamiento del hígado. Entonces, ¿por qué relacionarlo con nuestro curioso impulso a meter partes de nosotros mismos dentro del cuerpo de otras personas? ¿O con ese otro impulso igualmente curioso de apretar nuestra maloliente boca y picados dientes en orificios igualmente blanduchos y salivosos de otros cuerpos?

Your coldness has ruined my life. All right, you didn't mean it, all right I was a schoolgirl, but you could have been kinder to someone who said they loved you, you could have been gentle and grateful.