Many twentysomethings assume life will come together quickly after thirty, and maybe it will. But it is still going to be a different life. We imagin… - Meg Jay

We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later - but not making choices is a choice all the same.

We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later. But not making choices is a choice all the same.

There is a certain terror that goes along with saying “My life is up to me.” It is scary to realize there’s no magic, you can’t just wait around, no one can really rescue you, and you have to do something.

As we age, we feel less like leaves and more like trees. We have roots that ground us and sturdy trunks that may sway, but don't break, in the wind.

With all the attention paid to the urban tribe, however, many twentysomethings have limited themselves to huddling together with like-minded peers. Some are in almost constant contact with the same few people. But while the urban tribe helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly know — those who never make it into our tribe — who will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better.