Do not give way to useless alarm; though it is right to be prepared for the worst, there is no occasion to look on it as certain. - Jane Austen

It is very often nothing but our own vanity that deceives us. Women fancy admiration means more than it does.
And men take care that they should.

I cannot anyhow continue to find people agreeable; I respect Mrs. Chamberlayne for doing her hair well, but cannot feel a more tender sentiment. Miss Langley is like any other short girl, with a broad nose and wide mouth, fashionable dress and exposed bosom. Adm. Stanhope is a gentleman-like man, but then his legs are too short and his tail too long.

[N]obody minds having what is too good for them.