The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise, you will be forced to relive the past again and again. - Eckhart Tolle

The reason why you don't put your hand in the fire is not because of fear, it's because you know you'll get burned. You don't need fear to avoid an unnecessary danger, just a minimum of intelligence and common sense.

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Life isn't as serious as the mind makes it out to be.

How wonderful to go beyond wanting and fearing in your relationships. Love does not want or fear anything. (Ch 8)